Within the field of emotions, it is curious how all experts usually agree on something that we cannot ignore. It is not about knowing, recognizing, and managing our own emotions; not even to know, recognize and teach to value the emotions of others. No, it has nothing to do with that, it is related to talking about what we feel. And, of course, parents have the mission to teaching children to share emotions, a magical sensation that will enrich you.
Surely you have heard that maxim of 'sharing is living' many times; and what better than share something as intimate and as beautiful as our emotions. It seems to me a very beautiful and courageous exercise of highly intelligent people from the emotional point of view.
If you are looking for comfort or someone close to comfort you, tell him how you feel, tell him that you are sad, about to cry for what has happened to you ... and you will see that spontaneously it comes out to give you a hug or give you a caress.
If, on the other hand, you want someone to get away from you, tell them about your anger, that you can't stand such a situation anymore ... You will see how they don't stay by your side for long. In the same way, if you share your joys or your reasons for happiness you will see that those people will want to stay close to you.
By doing this simple exercise you will be able to check the magic of sharing emotions.
But what good is really sharing our emotions? What are the benefits that encourage us to do and, above all, to teach our children to experience them?
1. To receive more empathy
Sharing how you feel will make the other person empathize with us more quickly. What does that mean? If you share your emotional state, whoever is in front of you will understand you better, which will allow them to put themselves in your shoes more easily.
2. To feel better
Sometimes keeping emotions to ourselves can put a heavy load on our shoulders. This, in addition to being annoying, can be very harmful.
3. To change what you live
Only when you share your emotions can you change reality.
4. To manage your emotions
Parents and children must learn to manage emotions and a very useful tool for this is to share feelings.
5. To connect with other people
By sharing something as intimate as emotions, you get to connect in a more special way with your recipient.
Parents must teach children that sharing your emotions can be a magical and very satisfying experience. But how do you teach them? Here I propose some tools.
- The example
Our example teaches children what is expected of them, for better and for worse. If we share our feelings in a natural way, we will be teaching them a model so that they can share them too. And there is nothing more beautiful in a family than sharing the emotions among all the members of the same.
- The stories and poetry
From fantasy and imagination, children can learn a lot. Look for stories that speak of emotions through their characters and their plots: anger, joy, compassion, fear ... In this way children will internalize that talking about what we feel is very positive.
- Games to work emotions
There are many and very varied games that you can use with your children so that, firstly, they know how to identify their emotions and, later, they learn to handle them.
On the one hand there is, for example, the music game. It consists of putting different melodies on the child and asking him to identify each one with an emotion. Does it sound like joy or anger? Does it convey anger? Are you talking about a surprise? Then ask them to move according to what that song conveys to them.
You can also have fun with the game of faces. It is as simple as you stand in front of the mirror and try to guess the faces that the other is making. You can even try this game when you are brushing your teeth.
- A diary
For slightly older children, keeping a journal of everything that has happened to them during the day will make you reflect on how you have felt. Knowing that no one is going to read it will encourage you to express in a more free way what you feel, which will be the first step so that, one day, you will dare to share your emotions.
And you, how do you work with emotions at home? What are your favorite activities to talk about feelings?
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